Eugene Divorce Attorney

Should You Be Dating During a Divorce?

One issue that often arises when a divorce is in progress is the topic of dating during divorce. It is with increasing frequency that one or both spouses is starting to date, or even in a new serious relationship, before the divorce is finalized or even officially filed. In some cases, a spouse is even already engaged before the end of the divorce.

Dating during a divorce is never a good idea, especially if there are children involved. This can add an abundance of hostility to the process and make the divorce more difficult. At the law office of Barbara M. Palmer, P.C., we see many clients who are dealing with a divorce that has become extremely contested and argued simply because one spouse is dating. If you have questions about dating during a divorce, contact our office and schedule a consultation.

Time to Heal

One of the biggest problems with dating during a divorce is that the individual who is dating is not giving him or herself, or the children, time to heal from the divorce. People who date during their divorce do not give themselves the opportunity to learn what went wrong and to deal with the personal issues.

It is also important that the children have time to heal. Parents do not always fully understand the emotional impact a divorce has on children. By not dating and staying focused on the children, the divorce can have less of an impact on everyone involved. Also, when you date during a divorce, you also risk your children becoming alienated and very distant from you.

There really is no such thing as a completely blended family. It is difficult to balance all of the new issues, especially if there are difficulties between the exes. The people in the new relationship, especially if both have children from previous relationships, often spend most of their time dealing with parenting time arrangements, children’s schedules, shuttling kids back and forth, and so on.

Marital Money

If you are dating during a divorce and spending marital money on your new love interest, you are putting yourself at risk. Your spouse can use that against you when dealing with the division of marital property and assets.

Contact a Eugene Divorce Lawyer

Our office encourages clients not to date until their divorce and all related issues are settled. It is better for you and your children. To further discuss all types of divorce issues, contact a family law attorney at the law firm of Barbara M. Palmer, P.C., for an initial consultation.